When you hurt your child or partner, are you “fixing” that mistake? Everyone makes mistakes, but research shows those mistakes aren't usually bad. It is the failure to "fix" a mistake that has long term negative effects.
Research has shown that when a parent "makes a remedy" (such as apologizing, empathizing, hugging the child, etc.) after hurting a child, it contributes to the development of the child. long-term child.
All parents make mistakes (like yelling at a child after having a bad day, for example), but research indicates that these mistakes do not usually jeopardize the relationship or the child's development. On the contrary, they can even be useful training for future relationships.
These errors become a problem when the parent does not "fix" them. What the child takes away from this attitude is that he must allow his relationships to deteriorate slowly rather than "fixing" them.
The same concepts are valid for romantic relationships. All couples argue, but those who make an effort to "fix" the problems form a closer bond.
Take the time to "fix" your mistakes.